Introduction | Modules: 1 2 3 4 5 6

Module 2: Improvement of self-understanding and relationships


Lesson a: Our baggage—what we bring as parents from childhood and how it makes us "who we are"
Objectives and Suggested Timeline

Lesson b: How our baggage influences our parenting skills
Objectives and Suggested Timeline


Vocabulary | Instructional Aids | Handouts | Slide Show

Vocabulary

Every class should begin with a review of the last class objectives and vocabulary. A discussion of the vocabulary for these classes should then be introduced. Knowledge of the vocabulary and the definitions should be the instructor’s first priority. As you will notice, the vocabulary for sessions a and b in Module 2 are the same.

Parenting Style

The manner in which a parent shows, directs, or guides their children

Overindulge

To indulge excessively, gratify too much or

unwisely

Control

To exercise authority or dominating influence over, to direct or regulate

Balance

An influence or force tending to produce equilibrium

Baggage

A collection of a person’s problems or idiosyncrasies

Neglect

To ignore, or disregarded

Emotion

Any strong feeling, as of joy, sorrow, reverence, hate or love, arising subjectively rather than through conscious mental effort

Volatile

Inconstant, tending to violence; explosive

Empathy

A feeling of understanding so intimate that the feelings, thoughts, and motives of one are readily comprehended by another

Guilt

The feeling of being responsible for an offense or wrongdoing

Disciplinarian

Person who enforces the guidelines and determines the punishment for breaking the rules

The teacher should become familiar with the words and definitions prior to each session.

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Instructional Aids

Literacy skills are very important. Most of our Hispanic parents speak English; however, new words can confuse them, especially if they don’t understand what they mean. Word attack skills should be used when introducing the vocabulary. Continue with explanations of suffixes and prefixes, definitions and usage of the words.

The purpose of the lessons is to understand parenting styles and how these parenting skills can be passed down through the generations. We are a product of our environment. Whatever parenting skills we possess, we acquired from our parents. A child needs boundaries or rules to live by to feel they are loved. If a young adult or child is left to do "whatever," they feel as if their parents don’t care.

Understanding the kind of parenting style the participants are using can help in determining the next step, or what else can be done to enhance the relationship between the parent and child/young adult. At this time, communication skills should be discussed. Our grandparents would order something done without any explanation of why or without any reason. The only statement made was, "Because I said so." Parents should be encouraged to talk to their children. This may be a problem with some parents because they speak Spanish and their young adults would rather speak English. Spanish-speaking parents have a hard time getting their point across in English because they don’t know the "right" words to say.

Sharing stories of class members’ family structure and life experiences will help bond the participants as a class. It will also help class members to realize and compare different parenting styles. This sharing of experiences can be enlightening and very enjoyable. You will find that the participants can now laugh about their childhood embarrassments, celebrations or traumatic experiences. Sometimes, Hispanic parents are very private. They feel that whatever happens inside their home is family business and may not want to share. Hispanic males are more hesitant to share than Hispanic females. Please be sensitive to this parent’s position.

The teacher will have to role model a positive behavior in an argumentative situation. The situation presented with this lesson can be used or, one from the instructor’s past experience can be used. Positive role modeling will help the participants visualize what this lesson is about.

For example: The parent should sit down with Rosa and discuss the reasons why she insists upon dating the 19 year old. The parent should remember to maintain an even tone and calm demeanor. A list of pros and cons for dating the young man should be discussed rationally and without making statements that will "push buttons." Sometimes what we say makes the other person’s defense mechanism or temper flare, and with positive role modeling this can be avoided. Young adults have the ability to reason, contrary to popular belief. If parents respect the young adult’s choice or position and reason with them, most times arguments and tantrums can be turned into intelligent discussions.

As with all modules, the instructor should review the objectives of the lesson and answer any questions participants may have. Be aware, once the participants feel comfortable with the class, discussions may last longer than time allows.

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Handouts

This file is in Adobe Acrobat format. If you do not have Adobe Acrobat Reader, you can download it here for free. Using Acrobat Reader, you can print out the handouts and photocopy them as much as you need to.

Module 2 Handouts

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Slide Show

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Module 2a Slide Show
Module 2b Slide Show

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