Using your learning style-Relationshs

Using your learning style

Relationships

You have personal relationships with all kinds of people-with your family members, friends, spouse, co-workers, classmates, and teachers-even with your bus driver or grocer. Learning styles play a part in your daily interactions with all the people in your life. By looking more carefully at learning styles you can begin to understand why you may feel, think, and react to others in certain ways, and why they may feel, think, and react to you in certain ways.

In the video, you saw several examples of how learning style differences affect personal relationships and how sometimes they are the source of conflict.

Ladonna was upset with Eddie because she is a judging type who cares about being on time, and he is a perceiving type who is less aware of time commitments.

Tran and Eddie nearly got into an argument because they had two very different ways of building the shelving units which made it difficult for them to work together.

Shaylee and her Mom didn't agree that Shaylee should get so wrapped up in other people's feelings. That's because her Mom is a thinking type who doesn't let her emotions get in the way. But for Shaylee what matters the most is that people around her get along.

In relationships it is important to appreciate these differences. Understanding how learning style differences affect your relationships with others can help you deal more effectively and harmoniously with all of the people in your life.

extrovert
E

You like group interaction and activity.

You need a lot of social time and have many friends.

You discover what you think by talking

You need to be around people to re-energize.

You tend to talk more than listen and like being the center of attention.

Style Strengths
In relationships E's are best at solving problems by talking it out. They are social and outgoing. They thrive on having a lot of friends and developing relationships with all kinds of people.

Style Challenges
E's need to learn how to develop their listening skills, to think before they speak, and be more self-reflective. They need to learn to become comfortable with being alone.

introvert
I

You prefer one-on-one or small group interactions.

You need quiet time to reflect after being with people.

You usually think before you speak.

You need time alone to re-energize.

You tend to listen more than talk and avoid being the center of attention.

Style Strengths
I's are reflective people who are often happiest when they are alone or in couples or small groups. They develop strong and important relationships with a limited number of people.

Style Challenges
I's often need to learn how to communicate their thoughts and feelings with others. They need to pay more attention to others, and they need to learn how to feel more comfortable in large groups.

sensing
S

You pay attention to the little things in a relationship.

You are careful and reliable.

You are a realist who likes to be specific and down to earth.

You live in the present moment.

You prefer to communicate with others in a concrete and realistic way.

Style Strengths
S's create stability in relationships by being reliable and consistent. They are good at solving problems by paying attention to the details. They are sensible and down-to-earth in relating to other people.

Style Challenges
S's need to learn how to work out creative solutions to problems in their relationships. They need to pay attention to their hunches and be open to future planning.

intuitive
N

You have a general sense of how relationships are going.

You like to solve problems creatively.

You are a dreamer.

You are sensitive to underlying issues.

You seek harmony through understanding.

Style Strengths
N's bring out the best in others because they are always looking to make things better. They are excellent at resolving conflict and identifying creative solutions to problems in their relationships.

Style Challenges
N's need to learn to accept conflict in relationships and to learn how to be more practical and realistic. They need to work on being aware of what is happening currently in the relationship and to be satisfied with day-to-day events.

thinking
T

You are critical and see ways to make improvements.

You are aware of how you think.

You are concerned with justice and fairness.

You are more concerned with the facts than feelings.

Style Strengths
In relationships T's are just, fair, and truthful. They are able to solve problems by calmly examining all of the facts and, through logic, can win people over to their points of view.

Style Challenges
T's need to put effort into understanding how other people feel and to let their true feelings show. In some situations, they need to learn how to let go of the facts and trust their feelings.

feeling
F

You like to please others and show appreciation easily.

You tend to focus on your relationships.

You are tuned in to the quality of the relationship.

You are aware of how you feel and respond to other people's needs.

You relate to others with a concern and awareness of their feelings. .

Style Strengths
F's create harmony in their relationships through personal understanding and listening to other people's problems. They are personable, persuasive, and sensitive to the feelings of others.

Style Challenges
F's need to learn how not to take everything so personally and how to accept criticism and conflict as a part of life. In some situations F's need to learn how to take care of their own needs first.

judging
J

You are aware of time and tend to be serious.

You prefer a sense of control.

You are happiest once decisions have been made.

You prefer to finish one conversation before starting another.

You like to be on time for your appointments and dates.

Style Strengths
J's are good at planning and follow through. They are reliable, responsible, and dedicated to other people.

Style Challenges
J's need to learn to let go of control in relationships and be more spontaneous. They need to learn to trust when things are left unclear or undone and take more time before making decisions.

perceiving
P

You are spontaneous and playful.

You enjoy new experiences.

You are happiest leaving your options open.

You like to have a lot of things going on at once.

You prefer to "go with the flow."

Style Strengths
P's are playful and can keep the fun in their relationships. They are flexible, optimistic, and adaptable to new situations.

Style Challenges
P's need to be more aware of time and remember to keep time commitments to other people. They need to learn how to be more comfortable with commitment and making decisions.